YouTube Video TRANSCRIPT: Daily Taoist 58 #33b
Alright. I’m back. And this is 33. And 33 has been broken up into an a-b-c-d… A-B-C-D. Four pieces. Four pages of questions just on one thing from Lao Tzu. For one little paragraph. One of his 80 wisdoms. Okay, so #33a was about understanding yourself and other people. That takes a lot of work.
#33b:
It requires more strength to master one’s own will
than to control someone else’s.
Hey, The Daily Taoist here, Buddha Zhen Shen-Lang reading from the TAO OF TAOISM.
And yes, I’m on #33b of the 40 ones we’re gonna read here. About 40 of them I wrote in the Tao Of Taoism.
And #33b is talking about obviously,
It requires more strength
to master one’s own will
than to control someone else’s.
25% is– I can give a great example of that. When I come out here sometimes at night and I want a late night snack. And I have to use my self- My… will. To not do it. And I’ve been faring good. For a while I wasn’t. I was only about a 25% success. [LAUGHS] Now I’m at a 75% success. And the 25% I sometimes–isn’t even a mistake. I’ll realize, well if I’m going to eat now I’ll just stay up for another hour or two and I’m not going to go right to bed. So I kind of rationalize it slightly. Which has actually worked out really good because I’ve gotten some really good late night work done lately. So I think that snack really empowered me. I was both really hungry and tired. So anyway, But normally… But then once again I’m rationalizing. But being able to control myself and stop myself from that is harder than it would be for me to say, “You’re not allowed to do that.” And send my kid back to bed.
So it’s easy to enforce someone else and control someone else than actually control yourself. That to me is a good example of that.
Okay. So. Let’s see. In fact it says right now, Explain this. That’s the first one and I just explained it. So that’s my explanation of it. You explain it.
It requires more strength to master one’s own will than to control someone else’s.
Now you put it in your context. You talk about something that’s difficult for you to do than how it would be easier to do it for someone else. Okay?
How do you control other people? And why?
How do you control other people? And why?
That’s an interesting question. There’s so many infinite answers…. But maybe you control them as a business manager.
Or why are you controlling them? “Because someone told you to?” Why did you actually choose that job to be? Keep asking the WHYs… Keep asking well why’d you do that? Well WHY did you become a manager? Why’d you do that? Why do you? Why’d you go to school to become a manager? Why’d you know going to school to be a manager–? Keep those WHYS going.
I used to get in trouble. When I was a kid. Because the cows. The common man hates the “Why?” Because it makes you have to think.
So c’mon. Warm up that engine and start moving it. Get the WHYs going. Why? Why? Why? Why? Why————– [LAUGHS] It’s an engine. Okay?
Less Control = More Control?
How could you get just as much by controlling less?
How could you get just as much OR MORE by controlling less?
Now this is something I wish I’d mastered better as a parent. I was so busy doing so many things. If I could’ve just been a full-time parent without trying to run a Kung Fu school, write my books, record albums and even have a wife relationship. If I could’ve taken several of those things out of the mix I could’ve done a little better… at controlling my life. But, okay.
How do you control other people?
How could you get just as much by controlling less?
Now that’s what I was getting at. Is with my kids: is that sometimes it’s just easier to control… by like, “Don’t do that.” Or better– but control for me was not just trying to draw limits. I was trying to train my kids to do things. Teach them more. So that’s what I was really to get at when I saw that , “controlling less.” I… kept such an eye and I was so much there that I– as a teacher: I really should’ve given my kids, students, my kids as students: more of their own time to explore the lessons. That’s why the people I– to an extent–it drove people nuts.
I’d send my daughter off to the canyon by herself. “Oh you can go hike. Just come back in two hours.” You know. I’d be nervous for two hours. But still– I gave her adventure time. You’ve gotta give– You have to let them out of your control to a certain extent so they can develop certain abilities. And I wish I’d done it more. I wish I’d had even less control over my kids. Because I was there so much. All day long, 24/7. You know, raising my kids. So it would’ve been nice if I’d been there less. Even being the great father. They never saw me as the father. I was always the daycare worker. And Shifu. That was the only time I could be father. In fact, my daughter I remember…Anyway.
Here we go.
How could you get as much by controlling less?
If you set all those you control free–which would return and why?
Back to my kids. If I set my kids free–why would they return?
Well, they wouldn’t return for the music. They wouldn’t return for the Kung Fu. They wouldn’t return to be creative writers. They wouldn’t return because they wanted to help me with my television shows. Or be actors, or even in production, because i had them on the cameras at the cable TV show. And they’d be shooting cameras and helping me out and stuff too.
So they had opportunities to see if they had attitudes or acumen for any of these things.
So they wouldn’t come back to me for that. They wouldn’t come back to me for the singing and the music. I said that maybe already. So the only reason my kids would ever come back to me is for food and shelter. So that’s why we had a great relationship for fifteen years is because I supplied them food and shelter.
But the moment I didn’t supply them food and shelter anymore–I never saw them again.
Controlling the Subconscious Mind is Negotiation
How do you control your subconscious mind?
I told you… I… have a relationship with mine. I have a friendship. It’s like, “What do you want to do?” [LAUGHS] Well, how about you? Are you aware of your subconscious mind? Are you aware of the that: when you watch a scary movie it’s your subconscious mind watching it. Then you get scared and your conscious mind goes, “It’s just a movie.” Yeah, that’s one of the separations of the conscious and the Subconscious.
The subconsious believes everything. My subconscious, because like I said, I’m so empowered: I’m very very gullible. You know I’m– And I like to think that I’m always in an environment where I can trust information. And certain people have said things to me over the years that were wrong. Gosh. Just poisoned my mind. Because I’m gullible I believed it. You know I honest believed their B.S.
I think some of them even said some B.S. they thought was so B.S. that they thought I wouldn’t believe it. But I’m so gullible, I believed it. Then I find out later it’s untrue. And it kind of harmed my — a few perspectives I had in the meantime.
So yeah. Even smart people are gullible. We believe stuff. It’s my subconscious, so– [sigh]
Where we at now? Six minutes. Okay.
How could we get just as much by controlling less.
If you set them free — how do you control…?
What happens without these controls? If you don’t control your subconscious mind?
Well, like I said, I’m learning a lot since I wrote this book. Maybe 60 or 80% of the people in this world don’t control their subconscious mind. I don’t know. This is something I don’t really know.
So I’m not gonna tell you what’s going on there. I just know that when I get students. You know. I get them to have a nice relationship. Because your subscious mind is required to be a Kung Fu master. You cannot be a– You cannot do Kung Fu without your subconscious becoming a part of it. And so that relationship between your subconscious and conscious gets really powerful if you continue with the Kung Fu. Because they’re both empowered. And they both become very powerful. And they realize what they can do with exercise, practice, focus, learning, information. So the subconscious and the conscious just…when you become a kung Fu master–it’s like you get kind of– You go through a cocky period. [LAUGHS] Like that motorcycle.
Okay. Where were we.
Controlling the Conscious Mind is Self-Control
How do you control your conscious mind?
So your conscious mind. See? Now that’s a problem.
I’ve got a– I know somebody who’s got a, I think– I would call it a severe mental problem. Because his relationship with his subconscious mind and his conscious mind is horrible. His subconscious mind rules the show. So people think he’s retarded when he talks like a child. And he says really childish baby things. That’s because he let’s his subconscious talk. The subconscious mind is supposed to tell the conscious mind what to say. Or the subconscious mind is supposed to actually know what you– Tell you — I know you feel that way.
Let’s put it this way. The conscious mind is always supposed to communicate. You never let the subconscious mind communicate directly with other people. But this guy does. And that’s what makes him seem like he’s retarded. This thing comes out and really starts saying stupid childish things… And then you have to talk to him as if he’s a child. That’s a weird case but it really illuminated to me– I’d never seen that–so dramatically. Or at least been aware of that so dramatically until recently. Anyway. [SIGH]
What is Motivation Beyond Biological Needs?
Explain your self-motivation.
Explain YOUR self-motivation.
Let’s leave it at that. And that’s a very important question. And that’s a very important answer.
You put that down. And don’t say anything you’re supposed to, or anything rehearsed, memorized.
Explain YOUR self-motivation.
I’m gonna leave it at that.
How do you motivate yourself when you don’t want to do something?
I think I gave an example of that recently a minute ago.
That’s when you DON’T want to do something: How do you motivate yourself?
We all have to trick ourselves, talk ourselves into or… I’ve got all kinds of– actually things that I do.
What do you do?
Okay? What’s in your subconscious?
Okay. Buddha Zhen Shen-Lang. We’re breaking down #33b. That’s a tough one.
That’s talking about mastering your own will and controlling other people.
The first part was understanding yourself and understanding other people.
The third part is going to be about self-contentment. Opinions and… this is going to be interesting.
It looks like it’s going to add chaos to it.
Alright. Getting out of here. The Daily Taoist Buddha Zhen here. Reading from the TAO OF TAOISM.
That was #33b of what I’m saying is the Dao Te Ching by Lao Tzu. My interpretation.
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