The right side of our body is a yang/male polarity
that will extend itself for control.
By positioning the right/yang side to a yin side:
control is attained by balance.
Alright. I’m back again, THE Daily Tao. THE Daily Taoist. The Tao of The Daily.
[LAUGHS]. Anyway, Zhen Shen-Lang here. Tao of Taoism. Reading to you the BOOK OF CHANGES. Dao Te Ching written by Lao Tzu.
And now last time we talked about the female side of the body.
This is #31c.
So this will finish NUMBER 31.
You know we talked about victory lust parades. Military Yin and Yang. And putting the whole thing together.
So Yin and Yang creates trust or war. It’s kind of what we’ve already sort of packaged this whole thing together. If you can have Yin and Yang like this then you have friendship.
If you have Yin and Yang where you’re just fighting… you know right fist against right fist… then you’ve got a war.
So that’s what we’ve got to learn is: we’ve got to learn how to somebody— somebody’s gotta sometimes be the feminine in order to be a friend
Okay so I think that’s— there’s all kinds of things to be just saying. But you need that balance. You know, friendship isn’t two guys… well my arm’s as strong as you ever… that total competition.
At some point each of you need to acquiesce to the other for some reason.
Okay. But for harmony — for TAO. #31C.
THE RIGHT SIDE OUR BODY
IS A YANG MALE POLARITY
THAT WILL EXTEND ITSELF FOR CONTROL.
Now remember the other one was it would only… it was extend itself in friendship. If they had trust. Control and trust. Control and Trust.. And there you have it.
Yeah, that’s our Shaolin salute by the way. That’s not the reason we do it, but you see all these things are kind of embodied.
You see. Life has its harmonies. And you realize when you’re in the Tao sometimes.
Okay. Here we go back. Go back to the right side.
The right side is controlled by positioning the right Yang side to a Yin side.
Remember, the Yin? Somebody says hey you’re really cool and I want to hang out with you. You know they come over to this side. Okay,
BY POSITIONING THE RIGHT YANG SIDE
TO A YIN SIDE, CONTROL IS ATTAINED
Over here was by trust. Friendship is balanced by trust. So she’s thinking, I’m willing to be here because I trust him. And he says, I’m willing to let you be there because this is balance.
We have a balance now. If she was creating an imbalance, he wouldn’t want her there.
But the point is: that if you gotta have balance. So he sees it as a balance. She sees it as friendship or partnership.
Okay? So that’s just a perspective of the two Yins and Yangs.
Remember, we’re about the Tao. All Tao is a matter of perspectives remember?
All the souls have perspectives. The Yang has a different perspective than the Yin. And so you’ve got to look at it that way. And we all have Yang and Yins in us. So we have to— or Ying and Yang. We have to figure out how to come to terms with the Yin or Yang that’s in us.
Okay, except it. You’ve got to deal with it. Make something out of it. Okay.
So where were we?
We’re on “c.” Wasn’t it 31c?
There it is:
Describe what you desire of people.
Describe what you desire of people.
I actually just wrote a list and put it on my board.
I did it in small handwriting, so I have to get in there and, “What did I write?”
But it says, “What do I want out of people?” Because I’m not looking for sex. I’m not looking for a pretty girl, or pretty face, or somebody to cook. I’m not looking for those things in people.
I’m looking for people that are maybe in the movie business, or the animators,or maybe even a record producer or something.
I’m looking for people to be friends that are going to benefit my future, and then I can benefit them. I can supply them something that’ll make their future better too.
So anyway, describe what people you want, what you desire of people.
What do you look for in people to further your goals?
Remember, that’s what I just said.
So what do you need… to meet people you know.
We can meet people all the time… but have more of a purpose. I confess I—
That’s part of the reason I know people so well is I have just accepted everybody equally and then tried to figure out how to fit them into my life — instead of looking for the natural talents, and then just be more of a talent scout.
What do you avoid in people to minimize conflict and competition?
What did you look for in people so as to avoid, minimize that conflict and competition?
So what are you?
Yeah. What are you?
What’s your answer?
Describe the common aspects of your best relationships.
So look back over all your friendships: male and female.
And what were the best things that connected them together?
When you were happy?
They were happy?
What was the kind of things holding that together?
How do you utilize your Yin female side to gain control?
How do you use your submissive side to gain control?
How do you utilize your male and female sides to maintain control?
So now I’m saying both together, but anyway… they’re different.
Okay. So like I said, the one hand wants balance.
It’s gonna build something that’s balanced. Okay?
The other one’s Yin. It’s softer. It’s not as strong.
It’s just looking for a comfortable place it can feel happy.
So one’s willing to put in some work and the other’s willing to relax. Yin and Yang.
So explain your male/female emotional balance.
Hey, can you jump into that?
Explain your male/female emotional balance.
So are you aware of how you have female thinking versus male thinking?
And I remember I used to only think in the sexes — is immaterial. The environmental thing. The Darwinian programming.
But now I realize there’s the Soul thing. So that’s all adds a whole other dimension to looking at this behavioral thing. So now I’ve got to back up and see it from a bigger picture.
But how do you explain your male/female emotional balance?
Explain your male/female mental balance.
Okay. So remember, you have an emotional balance you know.
How you react to things and how long you stay pissed off.
Or if you ever get pissed off or happy, or how excited do you get?
That’s your emotional balance.
Your mental balance: that’s how well you learn and retain and feel good about you know being competent. And staying and I don’t know… just being smart. Just learning. Okay?
Explain your male/female physical balance.
So there you’ve got that physical about how much he wants to work.
How much she wants to relax.
So what’s your kind of balance: male and physical — male and female in terms of your physical part of your balance…
How masculine… how masculine do you walk?
When and why does it change?
In other words, when you walk, do you walk in a masculine way or do you walk in a feminine way?
Oh I’ve spent a lot of time practicing. Because I was at the… you locked me in a box with a whole bunch of people and as far as I’m concerned you got me with a whole bunch of test subjects.
When I was in that shelter for a year. I started like trying to study some of the behavior… and one of the most interesting parts of it was trying to imitate the female walk.
So a lot of women were walking… and you can tell a feminine walk from a male walk. And so I was trying to figure out what it was.
I was just out in the street. It was probably… so many people driving by… They must have thought I was pretty kooky — because I’m sure I couldn’t… I could not get it natural. I was trying to. I was trying to.
But anyway, and some women just really have walks you know… where they really forcibly turn their hips and and I had to watch their feet. So I did the whole Kung Fu of it down. How far are their feet… Are they walking? Are they crossing? What’s the footwork? Okay. How much is the heel? And then I had to put all this together.
It was a lot of work. A woman works very very hard, to in other words, make that female thing happen. So it made me kind of wonder how much there’s other things going on to motivate all this.
So we can get into all of that later.
But anyway, the masculine walk. So I came to realize that the feminine walk is you know it’s like a flower you know you. Could be a thousand feet away and you’re gonna be able to recognize a woman walking different than a man walking. It’s just like— it’s a beaming light and a light flashing.
[LAUGHS] A sign to attract the bees. But anyway, but it was interesting.
And so anyway, let’s get to the reasonings and the Darwinian stuff we can talk about another time. But it was interesting. And I was looking at the behavior and of how they are interacting and how it’s affecting the relationships.
And the walks: the male and the female… And it was the whole thing. And I used— When I was exiled in Canada. When I lived in Canada, I actually turned on the TV one night to watch Monty Python’s Flying Circus and I saw the “Funny Walk” thing. I actually saw it I think the date that it was broadcast on the CBC the Canadian Broadcasting Corporation when I was living in Newfoundland.
And so when that “Funny Walk” show, which is I guess a classic. I actually was sitting in front of a television in St. John’s, Newfoundland watching that show. And it cracked me up. A couple of their shows did.
But they were just so kooky I couldn’t… but there wasn’t any television I didn’t watch much.
I play guitar you know. Even just listening through headphones. She had a great stereo system and she had great records. She was really into— Sally, she had a great record collection, and she always got everything right then. That’s why I had all the current records and I didn’t— You know— Now I realize when I look.
When did that record come out? Now I really amazed like, wow. I had all this stuff right then when it was being released. And that stuff, it was really great in the headphones and I was in — you know…
How feminine do you walk? When and why?
So you had the masculine and this goes for women too.
And I’ve— now me, I find the women who walk masculine are very attractive. And I’m trying to figure that out. And I’ve seen them in high heels. I’ll see a woman in high heels. So I think it looks sexy but you know it must have a feminine walk… but no. She would walk just in just a really like assertive way. And I was like… and with the high heels and boots you know… it’s like, wow, now that’s attractive you know.
But the masculinity of it actually attracts, attracts me… because I guess I’m not a reproductive thing you know. I don’t have as much reproductive— well actually I think… But not anymore anyway. [LAUGHS]
I’m not as attracted to the feminine walk as much as the masculine woman walk. It was— I find that to be much more. I guess it’s empowering too. Because I like women who can do Kung Fu. I’m really looking for a—
I don’t want somebody who’s gonna go, “oh that’s too hard.” That one girl who’s gonna go, “Let’s do it again!”
I’m talking about exercise.
All right, so how feminine do you walk?
When and why?
We’re at 10 minutes.
And that was #31C.
That completes #31.
And to actually wrap up #31C,
NUMBER #31B was
The left side of our body is a Yin female polarity
that will only extend itself in friendship
when we trust one another.
By offering our left Yin side in friendship —
and this can be a weapon, but we’re talking about it… we see everything from the big picture.
By offering our left Yin side in friendship,
we stand alongside the right Yang side of our friend.
So if you want to turn someone into a friend this is how you do it. Okay, you can’t force it.
You do it. This is the harmonious and Tao way.
Friendship is balanced by trust. Okay?
So you have to be trustworthy too – that’s why marriages don’t work. They can’t trust each other.
#31A to round out this whole #31:
The celebration of victory and love of weapons
are vile lusting for death.
Are a vile listing for death?
Military parades are funeral processions in advance.
So remember when you cheer at a military parade you’re killing. You’re excited to go kill people.
Okay, Daily Taoist here to end all wars.
Don’t get me wrong, I wasn’t trying to say go to a military parade and cheer.
Now when I was a kid I saw the Blue Angels and stuff. I would go to those parades with my dad. My dad was in the military army. So I went to the military parades and I enjoyed them. I saw them and I yeah, but really mostly… I liked the boat races and the stuff that really wasn’t military.
But um I went to it. I was actually like I said— I was like I could have touched him. I’ve been that close to Eisenhower. Ike Eisenhower. I saw John F Kennedy, and get in and out of a helicopter and do his speech. I can’t remember anything he said. [LAUGHS]
We were way… I was way far in the back with my mom. My dad was graduating. But whatever it was I—whatever it was we were way far away. But anyway, but I was there. And I can remember the helicopter landing and I can remember that he was John F. Kennedy and he got in. And so that that was the extent.
How’d we get onto that?
But I was talking about the military. The love of military. I— you know— Like I said, I come from the old homophobic military war machine slave producing families.
A lot of the things I might even think I enjoy you know it’s like wow maybe I shouldn’t have enjoyed those as much but I did. I was a kid. Go along with it and that’s what we do — we brainwash everybody into going along with this murder and stuff and I’ve been brainwashed to some extent too. Just nobody thinks something of it.
All right, let’s decide who we are. Let’s decide what right and wrong is. And let’s decide correctly please. With balance and Taoism.
And remember if you’re making the wrong decisions… There should be ways you can tell and figure that out. There’s— I mean, I’ve seen Trump’s problems illuminated you know just dramatically.
So all of— everything that’s going wrong right now could be prevented by anybody who understands this book.
If you understand this book you can prevent a large number of our problems.
We’ve just got to work together to end all wars.
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